You know what I’m talking about, right? Those habits we slide into when we’re nervous. The I know-I-really- shouldn’t do it but I just can’t quite stop myself. Well, here it is. These are 5 things I think anxious people do when they know they shouldn’t.
#1 Compare Ourselves
You can’t say you haven’t done this while scrolling down your Facebook feed. Admittedly, secretly jealous of the one who is always posting pictures of themselves somewhere exotic. You know the type.
It makes us feel like crap, but we still do it! Don’t think you can blag, you have done it once or twice.
We’re either trying to squeeze ourselves into a different person’s shoes. We’re not attractive enough, not as confident…la deedar. Or the complete opposite – as if we are in a competition of who’s worse off. Hello why would you even want that?
This blog is proof. We will find just about anything. A-N-Y-THING. Than to either face the decision on our doorstep or to do the thing we actually are afraid of.
So we would rather put off the decision until, it is staring us in the face. We’d much prefer to deal with something later, sound familiar?
#3 Over think
I’m telling ya, if you’re mind was a screen you would be creating pretty dramatic movies. There is no end in thinking of all the scenarios that could happen. Vivid images keep zooming through your mind of all the worst case scenarios. Soon your mind is tongue-tied.
#4 Research like Sherlock Holmes
This is why Facebook is so bad or really good. Ever checked someone on Facebook before meeting them – I
have haven’t. Looked through their timeline so you could be prepared of what to talk about. Ever researched so much into symptoms that you make yourself paranoid?
Basically spending a lot of time researching before making a decision.
How many of us would rather hide than answer the front door? In a supermarket when you see someone you know? Pretend you didn’t hear something so that you don’t have to take part? Spent too long in the toilet because you didn’t want to go outside? A hedgehog defense mechanism of rolling into a ball when danger strikes.
We’re not stupid. We know to feel less anxiety we will come across these 5 things. The thought of it makes me want to do 5 (hide). Really all these things are natural, we are trying to protect ourselves from this constant threat we feel.
But also we can’t depend on willpower alone. It’s not about fighting against them. Rather accepting yourself. Does anxiety help you? The answer will always be no.